Every person alive does a bit of both, I suppose, but some are more extreme than others: overly sensitive people who take everything wrong; people pleasers who obsess over every inconsequential thing they've said to others.
Smug me says that people pleasers have it better because they'll gain the solicitude of their fellow man more easily as they go through life. Realistic me knows that both ends of the spectrum suffer an insufferable pride that needs some attention.
"O Jesus, I no longer care what people think of me. Truly I do not understand this pride. I believe that true heroism consists in constant fidelity to the humble and hidden way. I am happy when lost in the rank and file, and when I feel that I am counted as nothing. Then, only, can I walk in a glory that lights the soul without burning it."
General Louis-Gaston de Sonis, OCDS